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Nicotine Addiction

Lanre101 — Mon, 14 Jun 2021 21:00:13 +0000

I need help on how I could stop smoking cigarette. I really wish I could, but whenever the urge comes, no matter how much I tried, I will just find myself in the act. I have had series of medical report and consultations, advising me to desist from the act, but I don't just know how. Please, help me out of this menace.

How to cope with academic stress

smith — Mon, 03 May 2021 06:37:57 +0000

It was my first day in college and I already feel stressed, I’ve always been stressed when it comes to studying. I’m scared of failing and I always think of my parents and the money they spend on my education, which makes me stress even more. Whenever we have assignments or tests, I don’t sleep, and I’m always stressed and anxious. Examinations were approaching and I wasn’t getting enough sleep which in turn was causing headaches and I feeling my heartbeat increasing gradually by the day. I didn’t sleep for two days straight and during the exams, the headaches increased, I felt like someone was hitting my head, I felt something was wrong and before I knew it, I fainted, and was rushed to the hospital. The doctor said I was over stressed and needed to rest.

I have a perpetually cheating boyfriend

smith — Mon, 03 May 2021 06:00:29 +0000

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about a year now, he cheats on me regularly, but I always let it slide. I’ve a key to his apartment and I went to the house when he wasn’t at home and I saw used condoms at his place, and he lied to me that it wasn’t his. Now I’m tired so I started talking to some other guy and he saw my phone ringing and it was the new guy I started talking to, he broke my phone and started hitting me, I was shouting and screaming and managed to run out. I left and the next day, he came to my place with a new phone, flowers and a car. I’m scared he will do it again but I’m still in love with him. I don’t know what to do.

I need help getting over depression and sexual harassment

smith — Mon, 03 May 2021 05:51:57 +0000

After suffering through sexual harassment aged 16, I moved to work at a hotel. I was their youngest full-time employee at 17. The environment was highly pressurized, and I didn’t have much support from the team that was supposed to be training me in this rotation of my apprenticeship. I was isolated, working long hours and spent the majority of my days off passed out asleep. I spent a lot of the first six months trying my hardest, but nothing seemed to please the people I was working with. When my panic attacks returned at work, I was told all the ways, I was screwing up. So, my stress levels went up and I wondered what I was doing there.

I was able to leave the department and move to the next – FREEDOM! Maybe I could stop going home in tears? Little did I know what was coming. A month and a half into my new rotation, exactly two weeks and two days after my 18th Birthday - at 12:10pm, I entered the next room on my list to clean. Within 10 minutes, I became a victim of sexual assault. That’s when I entered my real hell.

After being signed off work for three months, I officially resigned and got myself into university through clearing, craving something normal. I was also diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder and a side of depression that came with it during this time.

In February this year, I lost yet another job because my ability to concentrate – as it is for so many people with PTSD – was in shreds and impeded my ability to work efficiently. I spent the next two weeks in a state of depression that was borderline severe. I've virtually given up hope of getting any better.

The journey of a single mum

smith — Mon, 03 May 2021 05:25:03 +0000

Being a young single mum meant I stayed behind when my peers continued with their lives through travel and study. With two little ones I was never alone but desperately lonely every single day. I think that’s an important distinction and it’s certainly something that people parenting, especially parenting alone can suffer through.

When the boys were started going to school, I went back to work but colleagues don’t always equate to friends and while that took the edge off, I was working, studying, raising the boys and running a home. My needs were quite literally bottom on the list of those to be met.

While the boys are now 18 and 19, I fully credit my social life and a large majority of my social circles now with the people I have met online and through my blog work. It most definitely helped with my mental health and as a direct result with my sons’ mental health and mentality too.

Struggling with depression due to loss of loved one

smith — Mon, 03 May 2021 05:15:37 +0000

I’ve been struggling with depression for about 5 years now, since I lost my family; my wife and kids. I still think about it every day, during a recent crisis, I found myself in tears and contemplating suicide. I felt very overwhelmed and alone. I lost my job at a point because I couldn’t concentrate anymore. I feel like I’m in a dark place right now. If feels like I’m alone in this world, roaming without my family because they meant everything to me. I don’t know what else to do.

Need help about my relationship

smith — Mon, 03 May 2021 05:02:47 +0000

I cheated on my girlfriend and she found out, I don’t know why she checked my phone. She saw the chat and showed me. What I’m afraid of is, since she found out, she has been acting so nice and caring like nothing has happened. I’m very worried because normally she will get angry and maybe throw something at me.

I’m scared she’s up to something because I don’t know why she should be acting extra nice after I cheated.

Please I need advice because I’m scared and it’s not letting me sleep properly.